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Just because it's impossible, doesn't mean that we shouldn't try.
Seventeen days ago on a Friday I poured 4 yards of concrete at my house with a couple of outstanding friends. I then took them to lunch and while I was drinking a beer and waiting on food I received a text from my wife saying that she was on her way home from Denver and she that and her sister were stopping in Lawrence Kansas. She texted that it was snowing on I70. I responded " Be careful ". I didn't hear from her again until around midnight. I knew something bad had happened because my niece said that her mother's phone had not moved for over an hour, and neither her nor my wife were responding to cell phone calls or texts. Around midnight I talked to her on a nurses phone in Wichita Kansas. I was told that she had many broken limbs and teeth. The picture that I constructed in my head was awful. I rejected that image and remained hopeful. I went outside and laid on my freshly poured concrete face up under the same sky that brought this tragedy, the same forces. She got caught up in a 70+ car pile up. Her sister agreed to drive the first leg. First responders say they cut her out of the vehicle which was wedged between two semi trailers. They went back the next day and removed the body of her sister. We are now in Indianapolis waiting for her hopefully final procedure, a skin graft on her left arm. It is a rather large area, aprox. 50 sq. inches. I do not understand how she escaped with these fixable injuries while her sister died instantly. I would be incomplete without my wife. I now love my wife's snoring. I intend to never complain and always smile. I intend to love my wife sacrificially with the time we have been given. I am certain that I will fail, yet try I must.
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Terrible news, Eggie - I don't have the words for this but I share in your shock and sorrow.
Oh my, Clay. My thoughts are with you at this time.
So, so sorry.
All the best to you and your family.
Life on this Earth is too short. All the best to you and yours.
Glad your wife is for the most part okay, Clay. Really sorry for your loss of your SIL.
An older man once asked me at his wife's funeral who died from cancer if I loved my wife. I replied that I did. He told me to make sure she heard me say it every day because you never know if she'll be taken away from me. I've held that high and made them count.
You just never know. My prayers are with you, Clay.
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Sorry to hear Clay
Why is it the worst things happen to the nicest people?
I'm so sorry Clay.
Wishing your wife a speedy recovery.
So sorry to hear this Clay. Praying she has a full recovery. Sorry for her/your loss of her sister
Thanks guys
Tragic bro! It's an unfortunate part of life, but you have to look at it as if it could be anyone's last. I hug/kiss and tell my wife I love her every morning when I leave for work. She does the same on Sat and Sun when she leaves me.
I’m lost for words. My condolences to all involved, tragedy is never easy to get through.
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I hope I'm not overstepping... but here it goes
In the coming months after extreme trauma It often helps to maintain some sort of normalcy. Im might be hard, but It may be imperitive that you not change yourself. Be her anchor, and show that life will still go on like it has before.
That is so good. I am not good at that. I have given this issue a fair amount of thought though.
It's all I know, buddy. So yes I agree, It's important.
So sorry for you and your family’s loss. Wishing your wife the best during her recovery
Wow, I'm so sorry to hear that. My wife and I have done a lot of dividing and conquering over the years and thankfully I've never had to take a call like that when there's been a gap in communication - but I've certainly thought about it. For the rest of us, it's a great reminder not to take things for granted. For you, best wishes for a full recovery for your wife and deepest condolences on the loss of her sister.
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Very sad news, I hope your wife recovers quickly.
There are the physical aspects of recovery, but the mental aspects are just as important: your wife has lost her sister, her family and friends have of course lost her too.
I'm sure you'll look after her and her family well
Best wishes
Geoff
Prayers for your wife’s recovery and condolences for her sister’s family and loved ones.
I'm sorry to hear this, Clay. Will be thinking of you and your wife in the coming days and weeks.
Thank you all.
Egg/Clay, I read this post early yesterday morning. I have wanted to say a few words, but struggling as to what. I cannot even imagine what I would be going through if that were my wife and SIL. Anyway, so sorry for you loss. And, so glad that your wife will be ok, physically. The trauma of the event and loss of her sister has got to be devastating. I have been guilty of taking my wife for granted at times, and I need to examine that, and try to cherish every moment, 'cause you never know whats just around the bend. Peace be with you and your family. Tom Hannah
Sorry to hear this as well. Hope your wife gets well quickly. I am also at a loss as to what to say. Take care!